Thoughts and Words

Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become character.

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

I have learned a lot about myself. I took 2011 and made it about figuring out who I was, rather than who everyone else believed me to be. 

I never cared about what others thought of me, or what they expected of me, so it never really "registers" when people have these strange reactions to my life choices. However, I do understand that people don't always share in the above five lines I have written to start off my post this beautiful Sunday.

Before your THOUGHTS become words, remember that not everyone has the same "life choices" as you. Your choices aren't the right ones for EVERYONE, they were the right ones FOR YOU. So keep the "opinions", the "looking down" and the overall "judgements" in your THOUGHTS. Don't allow them to become your words. It could mean the difference between having friends and family, or having no one.

And before you cast your judgements, I'll just let you know, the choices I have made in my life worked out just fine, thanks!

I chose to have my daughter prior to getting married. Why people have an opinion about this, I will never understand. And why people feel the need to SHARE that opinion with me, is something I truly do not understand.

I chose to marry a man who is older than me, it's a significant age difference, I'm aware of it. However, why do other people care so much? I have no clue. 

I chose to remain on Long Island. For me, it was obvious. There is no real "home" without my family around me. Why would I choose to leave my parents, siblings and our family just to have a larger home, perhaps an easier time paying bills? I just chose to figure out ways to make it here, where my family is, because that's what made sense to me. I don't ask other people why they left Long Island, nor do I care. If that's what makes them happy, than go for it. You go where you feel "your home" is. My HOME is with not just my husband and kids, but with my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews, along with my Nana (who, back in the 40s, moved here from Australia for her new husband and left her family because she felt her "home" was with my Papa). And yes, some sacrifices were made, but the good outweighs what we "give up."

I chose to be home with my kids. Sure, I left a great marketing career. And sure, I was making good money. Absolutely, I am college educated, smart and rather talented. However, my life was being drained from my soul every day at my job. It was being sucked out of me through the computer I sat at, the office I worked in, the chair I was forced to sit in and the negative people that every office has, because HUMAN BEINGS AREN'T MEANT TO SIT IN A CUBICLE ALL DAY (a quote from one of my favorite movies). I mean, who wouldn't want to go back to that hell after having another amazing baby? I mean, that's just nuts of me, right? I normally just smile, nod and walk away from people who actually believe working in an office is the only way to have a paycheck, support a family and live on Long Island.

I chose to enter the world of blogging and make it into a career. That's right. I get to write, which I love. I get to be home with my kids. I get to work when I want to, how long I want to, how short I want to, take lunch when I want to, take days off when I want to and let's see.......ANSWER TO NO ONE except ME, my fans and my KIDS.

I chose to enter the highly successful, profitable and FUN world of Network Marketing. I, like everyone else in the world, had to find the right one. Many people change jobs, no one ever questions that. But I leave two network marketing companies for THE BEST COMPANY I HAVE EVER WORKED FOR, Isagenix, and all of a sudden Network Marketing doesn't work. I just have to laugh. Guess what? It works. I've got the paychecks to prove it, the body to prove it (because man, I look damn good these days using my products) and the LIFESTYLE I designed to prove it.


I'm not sure why people think that being home with my kids is BENEATH me. Or writing a successful blog, along with a pretty damn good eBook, is BENEATH me. Or why Network Marketing, one of the fastest growing business models in the world, is BENEATH me.

Having a college education doesn't make me better than anyone else. I don't care if the other moms from my kids' classes went to college, or not. I don't care if they work full time or not, I don't care if they work outside the home or inside the home. I DO NOT CARE, because it is not ME living THEIR life.

But if you ASK me what I do, I will tell you, I have an Isagenix business and I have a couple of blogs. When you look at me with pity, put your hand to your chin and ask me in an 'oh my gosh, you poor thing, you must be living in a shelter' tone "Do you want me to see if they have an opening at my office", I just smile and THINK to myself "I probably make more than you do at your 9-5 job, doing what I do 10 hours a week." BUT, instead of saying what I'm thinking, I touch your arm and I just say "No, thanks. I love what I do. I appreciate the thought, though.... and if you ever want to learn how to make amazing money doing what I do, I'm always happy to sign on another associate."

Notice the thoughts that I have, but notice the words that I say instead.....because I have CHARACTER and my DESTINY is to improve lives, not assume you are a charity case.

It's a subtle difference, but it's there....


To health and wealth for all of you out there in 2012 and all the years after!